It seems that this world has become a platform where chauvinists and feminists are fighting over umpteen issues, and the war seems to be never-ending now. Just a couple of days ago I saw arranged marriage and love marriage chapatis being trolled as the best, hottest topic for a day or two. What followed was pretty much expected. There were some crisp and bitter replies condemning the joke. It was further cascaded by couple more posts flooding the social networking sites and people profusely showcasing outrageous behavior against such sexist jokes.
I am a feminist, someone who would never in a lifetime take a gender based joke on herself. However, I really feel the need to raise a point here. Is so much buzz really required on such issues? Do we actually think this is going to make a difference in the thought processes of people with peanut sized brains? The reality is that they would not be moved even a little with all this logical voicing. I believe god has already done enough injustice to them by gifting them a ridiculously slow thought process. No hatred, no outrage can outdo the misfortune they have deliberately put themselves in.
I am sure they would love the women in their lives, mothers, wives, sisters all being encompassed in the definition here, merely for the superficial things, a quantum of measurement which can never surpass derogatory levels. At most they will end up choosing a woman partner whose handmade delectable food will be the utmost criteria indicating her meritorious performance. So here I come back to what I am trying to persuade you about. Shouting and jeering against acts of such people is a mere waste of our time and efforts.
I have a better idea, an altogether different perspective. Rather than hating these people, why not channelize our efforts in praising the ones which are actually worthy of commendation. Maybe everyone is not lucky enough, but I can bet quite a lot of us certainly are. Why not raise the toast to the communities which do not look down at a person on the basis of their sex. So, here it goes for an extremely supportive and advocating father. Two brothers in whom I have found the best of friends. A cousin who sets the best example when it comes to exemplifying open mindedness. The awesome friends and colleagues who appreciate the bold side in me and other women in their families and workplace. College mates who have encouraged me to jump off of moving trains and hostel walls at midnight.
Yes, all of them are protective about me, possessive too at times, but I can bet none of them will ever have the audacity to disrespect a woman. Reiterating the fact that I am proud to have such people surrounding me, I feel proud while I write this post because I know the presence of these men makes my world certainly very exciting and exuberant. I am sure many of us have a handful of such men surrounding us. If not anything else, we can say a big thank you to them and show gratitude for everything they have ever been to us.
~ Aanchal Sethi | Edited by Afreen Zeb